So hypothetically, if a teen had accepted invitations to an overnight birthday party and attended, but had asked you to be on call for if they needed to get home, be happy.
If that teen then sees that it is time for her to say her good nights and rings you at midnight for a collection from the deepest and darkest part of the countryside where the house is located, be happy to pull on you jacket and attend accordingly.
Kids can have fun and hang out. They cannot drive. We have to trust their gut instinct and support their appropriate decisions.
If you were a single mum with a rare “night off”, it is still your responsibility to be available to attend to matters. Kids rarely need a doctor or a collection at a convenient time!
If that same single mum has friends who don’t understand why she doesn’t drink even when by the kiddo is away, hard cheese and too bad! You know what is right.
If you were in a car and stuck in fast flowing water and called the tow truck or emergency services and they said ” sorry, we thought you were out for the night so had a few beers, we cannot get there til morning “, how safe would you feel?
Most stuff kids get in to is because at first they don’t see a way out. Please be that way out. It is really easy. Just don’t get sloshed and keep your phone on. Turn up with a happy countenance and tell the kid that you are happy they called if they weren’t comfy anymore.
It is easy.