I love that all kind of -ism’s are being called out and revealed in broad daylight. I love that everyone from creepy weirdo’s to predatory world and industry leaders cannot now easily hide their evil doings by throwing money at the problem or intimidating somebody in to silence. I love that people are finding a voice, are being heard and have courage to say the difficult truthful thing. Love it.
There are times where feelings occur, it is natural to have compassion for our fellow person on this planet. These feelings are a motivating force. But that brings me to my point. Force and power.
People, I perceive, are clutching at their pearls and lamenting about awfulness which every woman on the planet has known is going on for generations. And then people are clutching and lamenting further and then a little more. I perceive that lamenting and pearl clutching are becoming a hobby born of a feeling of impotence, of feeling like there is nothing that can be done, a default reaction, and yet those move the cause along hardly at all. Speakers need people to hear them, absolutely.
We cannot become a nation of cissy’s, of passive people, of those who wring their handkerchief between their fingers in helpless distress.
We have to be able to face the unpleasant things in life and we have to be able to deal with it there and then. We have to reclaim laughing in the face of adversity. We have to be able to demand a seat at the table of our own life. The best creativity, art, music always stem from periods of adversity. Maybe the best of our life can be brought forth in times of trial and difficulty.
We need to know who we are despite what others say about us. If somebody withdrew their approval, would we be bereft or flounder? No! We wouldn’t, we’re tougher than that! Our emotional core strength is invaluable.
With the caveat that we should do no harm to ourselves or others, it matters not whether somebody accepts our lifestyle. Do we accept ourselves? Are we going to embrace the good in life while the others yell in to their own echo chamber? Are we going to bruise at an unkind word or are we going to be resilient and cheerfully persist? If somebody insists on telling us all our faults, can we be resolute in our own sense of humility and self worth? Can we continue to learn and grow, developing an amazing life?
Standing in front of evil ill intent and boldly declaring as Gandalf “You Shall Not Pass”, or as Doctor Who “She Is Defended” is a minimum starting point. A swift “thanks for your input” and going your own way is another possibility. A further step would be to separate our wants for our life from the wants of others for our life.
To whimper and twist a hanky will do nobody any good.
For items playing out on the worldwide stage, there are things we can do. We can write to our government representative if the matter relates to a national situation. We can join Amnesty International’s Facebook page (how easy can that be!), always be polite if you are contacting an organisation. We can donate to organisations pulling in the same direction. We can be a person who can be confided in, who survivors and fellow travellers can trust.
Be true to your word and be braver than you think you are.
And laugh, laugh lots, laugh at funny things. Take away the fear of living in a dented world. Go out dancing, have kitchen discos, use the nice things you own and treat yourself and the people around you kindly. Speak the truth. Have the courage of your convictions and the courage to continue learning. Hold the line.
But for the love of sunshine, stop clutching your pearls.